Dealing with the Day to Day

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I used to be organized. Like really organized.

Everything had its place, and it was imperative that it all stayed in its place, or at least made it back to its place fairly quickly. I seldom went to bed with dirty dishes in the sink, or unfolded laundry in a basket. The floors were clean, paperwork was filed away neatly, deadlines were carefully noted.

And then life became busy.  Like really busy.

First as a wife, mother of two, and full-time job outside the home. Later as a stay-at-home mother of three, then four, then five blessings, topping it off with homeschooling, extra activities, and ministry. Whew!

I found myself in a whirlwind, feeling more and more frazzled, running dangerously fast, but never feeling caught up. So I did the only logical thing … I threw organization out the window.  After all, who has time for filing paperwork when there is seldom a spare moment in the day? No, it simply was not happening. Something had to give and organization became that something.

The crazy thing about it is this … even though I let those things go in a physical sense, the need to do them never left my mind. So, I’ve been constantly thinking about what I should be doing rather than doing it. And that, my friend, is exhausting.

As a result, I’ve began asking myself a few questions. Questions such as, “How in the world did I miss that event?” “Did I really forget to pay that bill?”  “Dinner? Oh goodness, I guess it’s sandwiches – again.”

Sisters, this is not a good place for me, and I’m guessing it’s not your favorite place either. When we fail to handle the important issues of daily life in a timely manner, we oftentimes end up in a panic, feeling like a failure.  What a stressful way to live! Yet, that is exactly where I’ve found myself too much of the time lately.

Quite frankly, I’m tired of being parked in that place.

I’m realizing I must take time to regroup, reorganize, and rethink my day to day grind. I’m not talking about becoming frigid and unflexible. I’m merely suggesting a more deliberate approach to life, living in a way that creates a peaceful, yet productive atmosphere within my home.

What are some ways you’ve found to relieve the stress of daily life in your home? 

  • Do you meal plan? If so, what works best for you?
  • Do you make lunches the night before?
  • Do you assign specific laundry days to your children?
  • Do you limit the number of extracurricular activities for your children, or stick to a limited number of hobbies for yourself?
  • Do you have a special day or time set aside to handle the mounds of paperwork or emails coming into your home?



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  1. Oh, my friend, how I feel you! We have chore schedules for the kids, and I’m trying to be more diligent about keeping track of how I’m using my time. But, goodness, we can’t slack off, can we?!?!

    1. Thanks for your comment, Ann! — We can’t slack off, but so often we do – especially when life hits hard. As with anything else in life that needs to happen, we must choose to do it and then work on it consistently, chipping off a little more each day. Sounds a lot like your chore schedules and time tracking! 🙂

  2. Sheila,

    I’m a little older and only had 2 kids unless you count James. I found when my kids were young, we had organized activities each evening and on weekends. The kids never had time to just play, choose what to do on their own or even develop hobbies. I ended up cutting almost everything out unless it was something they asked to do.

    Bills – I make a list of what is due on a calendar each month. All of my mail goes in one place until I’m ready. My situation may be different here too. We were paid twice a month. I sat down two times a month and paid the bills that were to be paid at the time. I didn’t think about bills until next payday.
    I’ve never been a neat freak, but I have to have a clean kitchen and bathroom. Stacks of stuff don’t really bother me, but I can’t stand dirty. The kids helped clean. I tried a schedule for a while, but it didn’t work very well for me. I ended up say, “These things need to be done. What do you want to do?” (Robert actually said one time that I love to clean house. Uh – no!). I told my kids that their future wives aren’t going to do all the cleaning while they sit around. I could have done a better job on this, ask Jerusha. After supper, they helped clean. We all left the kitchen at the same time – when everything was clean and put away.

    1. Liz – I love this! I was actually thinking about getting a blank calendar just for listing bills – I’ll definitely give that a try after hearing how well it has worked for you. — and everyone leaving the kitchen at the same time, that’s genius! 🙂

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